Talking to Strangers

Talking to Strangers

What We Should Know About the People We Don't Know

Book - 2019
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A Best Book of the Year: The Financial Times, Bloomberg, Chicago Tribune, and Detroit Free Pres
Malcolm Gladwell, host of the podcast Revisionist History and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Outliers , offers a powerful examination of our interactions with strangers -- and why they often go wrong.
How did Fidel Castro fool the CIA for a generation? Why did Neville Chamberlain think he could trust Adolf Hitler? Why are campus sexual assaults on the rise? Do television sitcoms teach us something about the way we relate to each other that isn't true?
While tackling these questions, Malcolm Gladwell was not solely writing a book for the page. He was also producing for the ear. In the audiobook version of Talking to Strangers , you'll hear the voices of people he interviewed--scientists, criminologists, military psychologists. Court transcripts are brought to life with re-enactments. You actually hear the contentious arrest of Sandra Bland by the side of the road in Texas. As Gladwell revisits the deceptions of Bernie Madoff, the trial of Amanda Knox, and the suicide of Sylvia Plath, you hear directly from many of the players in these real-life tragedies. There's even a theme song - Janelle Monae's "Hell You Talmbout."
Something is very wrong, Gladwell argues, with the tools and strategies we use to make sense of people we don't know. And because we don't know how to talk to strangers, we are inviting conflict and misunderstanding in ways that have a profound effect on our lives and our world.
Publisher: New York : Little, Brown and Company, ©2019.
ISBN: 9780316478526
Characteristics: xii, 386 pages :,illustrations, portraits ;,22 cm.


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Feb 20, 2020

Malcolm Gladwell is one of my favorite authors!

JCLHollyB Feb 20, 2020

Totz recco. A must read!

Feb 12, 2020

There are about 3 big ideas in 345 pages, and I wish he had gotten to conclusions better than "we don't do a very good job at some things, but doing a good job would be result in a world worse than what we have." But it is a fun book.

Jan 29, 2020

As always Malcolm gives us an alternate way of looking at the world and the people and situations around us in a different way. It's unfortunate that network news doesn't use him to explain some of the ways he sees and interprets things.

Jan 27, 2020

The subject is an important topic that the author builds up to understand various aspects of where things go awry. Mr. Gladwell structures and presents each illustrative story in a way that we follow his conclusion. For the most part this works well. However, there are some cases where the author has not really established that his narrative is the only plausible one. Nevertheless, he makes a cogent case that communicating with strangers can be very fraught with misconceptions and misdirection. I have personally experienced this frustration so much of what he says resonates. The section on KSM, although fascinating, is a non-essential part of the primary narrative and appears to be a pad.

The Amanda Knox discussion was very interesting and seems to resolve what has bothered me about the case.

All in all, I recommend this book.

Jan 08, 2020

Taking complex, controversial subjects to a simple, ingestible form. We of course have the benefit of hindsight in all the examples provided so the critical thinking component is not there for the reader as the facts are slowly revealed. Quick and easy read that potentially will have you question how well you are at assessing someone and or a situation in the future.

Jan 06, 2020

I have read many of Gladwell's previous books and enjoyed them and learned from them. This book is not in the same league as his previous works. Perhaps its because the examples he discusses are from recent international news and are too familiar me? I get the impression that his latest work was written because 'he had to write a new book' to sustain his momentum. The only chapter that offer's Gladwell-style deep insights is chapter one. The others are duds.

Dec 29, 2019

In his usual pseudo-psychological journalist style, Gladwell unpacks the difficulty humans have determining when strangers are lying. I enjoyed the first part of the book, but found that the last part descended rapidly into sensational case studies that served more as journalistic "click bait" than as credible material for advancing his thesis. I think this is Gladwell's weakest book; however, it's still worth reading.

Dec 27, 2019

Once again, Malcom Gladwell comes through with an extraordinary book which offers several perspectives on recent events. Mr. Gladwell lets people think about topics without being preachy, judgemental, or overly political.

Dec 24, 2019

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Feb 08, 2020

The first set of mistakes we make with strangers - the default to truth and the illusion of transparency - has to do with our inability to make sense of the stranger as an individual. But on top of those errors we add another, which pushes our problem with strangers into crisis. We do not understand the importance of the context in which the stranger is operating.

Feb 08, 2020

Sometimes the best conversations between strangers allow the stranger to remain a stranger. (p. XII)

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Feb 03, 2020

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